Connections Over Compliance: Rewiring Our Perceptions of Discipline
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- Author：Lori L Desautels
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Reviews
Anna Holtsclaw
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This was a great book to read and really helped open my mind on how to help students！
Marcia Barron
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Readable， informative， extremely important knowledge for today's educators。。。for parents， for people who want to deal with personal growth from life or trauma Readable， informative， extremely important knowledge for today's educators。。。for parents， for people who want to deal with personal growth from life or trauma 。。。more
Adam Bloch
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This is a good read。 It helped to give me a framework for how to think through traditional discipline （which would be more apt to work on traditional kids--the problem is that we have less and less traditional kids these days） and also helped me see how to refocus some non-traditional efforts in helping someone I love。 I liked the etymological approach to the word "discipline。" This is a good read。 It helped to give me a framework for how to think through traditional discipline （which would be more apt to work on traditional kids--the problem is that we have less and less traditional kids these days） and also helped me see how to refocus some non-traditional efforts in helping someone I love。 I liked the etymological approach to the word "discipline。" 。。。more
Ken
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Nothin wrong with the content， but sometimes these educational books feel like someone has one good idea and is trying to latch it onto every hot topic of the day。
Eli Norman
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Overall， this book is a solid read and a well-written guide to more effective classroom management。 One literary element that aids author Lori Desautels’ writing is her focus on dialogue。 A lot of examples and excerpts in the text use dialogue between students and teachers as a basis for Desautels’ examples。 The use of dialogue makes the book easy-to-read as well as enjoyable to read。 The use of dialogue also aids another literary element that Desautels uses， evidence。 Desautels backs up her fin Overall， this book is a solid read and a well-written guide to more effective classroom management。 One literary element that aids author Lori Desautels’ writing is her focus on dialogue。 A lot of examples and excerpts in the text use dialogue between students and teachers as a basis for Desautels’ examples。 The use of dialogue makes the book easy-to-read as well as enjoyable to read。 The use of dialogue also aids another literary element that Desautels uses， evidence。 Desautels backs up her findings and advice with statistical as well as anecdotal evidence。 Desautels’ prolific use of evidence aids the reader's understanding of the book because it shows how her arguments can and do work in the classroom。 Lastly， she utilizes the argumentative literature element of ethos to solidify her positing。 Desautels utilizes her position as a trusted professional researcher in the field of education to present her arguments with a respectable degree of authority。 Her ethos and authority throughout the book are felt and beckons the reader to listen and truly turn over and think about the information being presented and what to do with it。 Furthermore， I enjoyed the element of dialogue the most because Desautels implemented it so smoothly and how well it aided my understanding of the text。 Although the book was not my favorite， simply because a lot of the information being presented felt like repeated information from college classes， it was not because of any specific literary elements。 Furthermore， my boredom towards the material is likely a personal taste and this book would be more beneficial for someone who has not had classes on this subject， like a parent。 I was drawn to this book by its cover and content。 I am interested in how to effectively manage the classroom because that is one of my largest worries about becoming a teacher。 I plan on utilizing a lot of the different classroom management techniques in this book， like journaling， and determining how effective they are through trial and error。 This book made me feel more confident about being a teacher and I felt it was very helpful for child management strategies in general。 Furthermore， it helped provide me with more evidence to defend how I view students and my classroom management techniques。 It also helps provide evidence to strip back the negative stereotypes of problem students and the education program that are being pushed by the news and movies like Stand and Deliver and Detachment。 。。。more
Avery
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Connections Over Compliance was such a moving and overall great read。 The author is able to share experiences and evidence in so many different ways to help support the idea that our schools have very broken and problematic discipline systems。 A major literary element that I noticed was her use of dialogue。 There are many times throughout the book in which we observe a conversation between two parties （teacher to teacher， teacher to student， student to student， etc。）， and rather than just a reca Connections Over Compliance was such a moving and overall great read。 The author is able to share experiences and evidence in so many different ways to help support the idea that our schools have very broken and problematic discipline systems。 A major literary element that I noticed was her use of dialogue。 There are many times throughout the book in which we observe a conversation between two parties （teacher to teacher， teacher to student， student to student， etc。）， and rather than just a recap of what happened， we are thrown directly into the conversation。 I loved this because reading the dialogue rather than a recap felt more moving and definitely had a bigger impact on me。 For example， the story about June that was spread throughout the book was really moving; we get to see the dialogue between an unregulated student and an unregulated teacher and all of the raw， real， frustration and anger that is erupting from the both of them。 Then we get to listen to a conversation between the two when they are each more regulated and it is so clear the importance of being regulated when interacting with others and understanding not only your own triggers， but your students as well。 The use of dialogue and real-life experiences was truly a strength of this book。Another literary element that really takes this book up a notch was the use of perspective and different points of view。 A major issue in our discipline systems is that they are so overtaken by biases， stereotypes， and personal beliefs。 Addressing and becoming more aware of different perspectives is a vital step in improving how we interact with others， our students especially; I think that this is done very well throughout the book as we don’t only hear from the perspectives and experiences of different teachers， but the students as well。 I especially love how the author tackles how educators can have biases towards their students with the story on page 95 titled “Who Would Have Thought？: The Resilience of a Principal and a School Shooter”。 I love how after each paragraph， the perspective changed between the principal and student as they were both working through their stories， experiences， emotions， and bias。 It was extremely powerful and well-written by the two （the principal and student are the authors）。 It is a perspective we don’t hear much of， even in this time when shootings are unfortunately appearing more and more; I think it is an important perspective to hear， especially from a student， in hopes for prevention。 Lastly， I felt that each chapter was also well-paced。 It was always just enough where I， as a reader， could really soak in and engage with the stories I was reading， the lessons I was learning， and all of the new strategies I can integrate into my future classroom。 One thing I’ll note as a minor weakness was that often when charts， questionnaires， or strategies appeared in the middle of a chapter， it broke my focus and made my reading experience a little more choppy but overall， not a big deal。 I feel like maybe it could’ve been presented at the end of the chapter or at the end of the book， but again， just a personal preference。When it came to choosing what book I wanted to read for class， the title of this book immediately drew me in。 As a preservice teacher， I don’t have a lot of classroom experience or experience with discipline。 Within my few experiences， however， I have realized that my classroom management skills are rather lacking but I’m not one who likes to yell， punish， or kick students out。 I was hoping that with “Connections Over Compliance” I could learn how to better manage my future classroom in a way that valued student experiences and voices and moved away from the more traditional forms of discipline that plague our schools。 Spoiler: this is the perfect book for just that！ In this book， we get an in-depth look at the importance and impact of co-regulatory practices and meaningful relationships within not just the classroom， but our school districts as a whole， staff included。 We are taught countless methods that push away from the traditional discipline systems that damage our students and instead push for more awareness on how our brains work， how we can connect with students， and how we can care for ourselves as educators to better work with students。 This book was empowering to me as it showed me I can create change in my classroom and district。 It made me feel supported with the stories of struggle and success。 I definitely recommend this book to anyone who wants to see change and wants to support their students and teach their students skills that will help them even outside of school。 Like Natalie said in her review， “The resource section alone makes this a must-read for any education professional。” Such an incredible book and resource that I am blessed to have come across！ 。。。more
Em
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tThere were a variety of literary elements used throughout the book。 One that I noticed was bias， which is present in all human works。 While the author did make good points about their research and experiences， they did not include very much information from the other side。 Another element that the author used would be the argumentative essay。 The book had a variety of points that it laid out very well and defended。 The author provided evidence and reasoning for why they believed what they did。 tThere were a variety of literary elements used throughout the book。 One that I noticed was bias， which is present in all human works。 While the author did make good points about their research and experiences， they did not include very much information from the other side。 Another element that the author used would be the argumentative essay。 The book had a variety of points that it laid out very well and defended。 The author provided evidence and reasoning for why they believed what they did。 One other literary element that was used was audience。 The author knows that primarily those who are in the field of education will be reading the book， so they referenced things that would be known by the audience。 tOverall， I really enjoyed how the book was written。 The author got their points across very well， and I was interested to know what was happening as I was reading。 The way that they framed what they were talking about with stories， such as the story about a student named June， helped me to understand。 The book was not just a giant block of text that had extremely detailed scientific terminology。 While the terminology is in the book， it is not overwhelming。 One thing that I wish was different about the book was the way that information was presented。 The information about how scenarios can escalate if the teacher does not remain calm is very important， but I feel there wasn’t enough of these。 While it was not just a dense text full of unfamiliar terminology， I found myself struggling to read at bits because I was more invested in the personal stories that were there。 Again， the story told about June was broken up with information between， but I just wanted to know what happened。 It made reading and processing the important information a bit harder。tI read this because I feel that the topic is not talked about enough。 I am currently going through a social studies education program， and we needed to pick a book to read for a class book club。 Out of the choices offered， I felt that this book seemed like it would be the most interesting and useful one to me。 The reviews for the book seem to also support what I was feeling。 For example， Tracy Stephens wrote， “I highly recommend this book to teachers of elementary and middle school students！ It’s got a lot of great neuroscience in it， but it’s through the lens of education。 It also has a TON of concrete ideas to use with students。” I have not read other works by this author， but they have written four other books。 This does seem like a stand alone book。tThis book focuses on the idea that students cannot regulate their own emotions if the teacher is not regulating the teacher’s own personal emotions。 There were also talks about how often students come to the classroom with their own traumas。 These traumas often make traditional discipline ineffective on these students。 The author emphasizes the idea that teachers should focus less on traditional discipline and more on building a relationship with students to effectively help them understand why they are doing these behaviors and how to prevent them from happening。 tI would recommend this book to others， especially those interested in the field of education or on the reason why people may lash out。 As with every work there are weaknesses， this book still has very important topics and was written in a very compelling manner。 。。。more
Delaney Towers
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One literary element I believe Connections over Compliance used well was the style of argumentative essay that it was written due to the fact that it did not feel like the author was trying to write a five-paragraph argumentative essay but she had a way of disciplining students that she wanted to provide evidence for so that teachers would use it and attempt to curb any behavioral issues that were affecting students。 I would say that another literary element， perhaps not as great， that was inclu One literary element I believe Connections over Compliance used well was the style of argumentative essay that it was written due to the fact that it did not feel like the author was trying to write a five-paragraph argumentative essay but she had a way of disciplining students that she wanted to provide evidence for so that teachers would use it and attempt to curb any behavioral issues that were affecting students。 I would say that another literary element， perhaps not as great， that was included in this book was definitely bias because this book only talked about the positive aspects of social emotional learning and promoted only one approach to disciplining students without much input from a different perspective or examples of when this approach did not actually help to curb disruptive behavior。 Something that this book did really well was providing context， which I personally did not know was a literary element， but I appreciated the evidence that was provided to support this theory of disciplining students as well as the background knowledge that explained why we， as future educators， even needed to look at a different approach。 Before reading this book， I understood that there was a discipline problem in the schools but I had only heard about the treatment of minority students in relation to issues such as the school-to-prison pipeline。 I had no idea how to even go about fixing these obstacles to student success or even that trauma responses or social emotional learning had anything to do with the negatives of our current discipline approach。As I mentioned before， I really did enjoy reading this book because I learned a lot and I loved that there were specific methods that could be used in a classroom setting that were made easily accessible and even had success stories from other teachers that had used them in their teaching career。 I appreciated this because， as I stated before， I did not know how to go about remedying the current discipline problems that exist in the education system， as someone who was simply going into the classroom and not policy， but I now feel that I have a grasp on certain techniques that I can implement in my own classroom。 I do think， however， that the author’s writing style of a more argumentative approach was great for making the importance of this approach appear vital but was lacking in showing a different perspective that may not agree with this approach or showing qualitative or quantitative evidence that may not support these techniques that are based in social emotional learning。 I also did not love the amount of data that was included in this book because， at times， it felt impersonal and it was hard to read when getting through passages that lacked differentiation and only had quantitative evidence。 This element truly did not work for me because I am someone that needs to feel engaged by the text that they are reading， as do most readers， and I definitely felt myself zoning off in these sections。 Despite the negatives， I did love reading this book and I cannot emphasize that enough because I truly think it helped me to grow as a future educator and grew my confidence about the fact that I am entering into my own classroom as the sole teacher in about a year。 The resource section at the back of this book was a great addition and definitely earned it a spot in my classroom library！ While there are things that could have been improved upon， as stated above， I am grateful that I selected this book and that my group and I were able to have interesting discussions on this topic because I don’t think it is talked about enough when preparing future teachers and it absolutely should be given the harm that it can cause students。 What made me want to read this book， in all honesty， was that it had amazing reviews on Amazon and it actually had the best reviews of any other book that we were able to select for this project。 I do think that the title did intrigue me as well and， after reading this book， I would argue that this is the perfect title for a book that emphasizes student-teacher relationships and student voice over forcing students to interact and engage in the classroom in a specific way。 There was no summary on the cover but Mona Delahooke， who has a Ph。D。， and wrote Beyond Behaviors， stated that this book was “Transformational！ A paradigm shift in education based in relational neuroscience” which as someone who loves psychology definitely intrigued me as a potential reader。 I have always been interested in how the brain works and took AP Psychology in high school but have had the opportunity to only take one educational psychology course and this book definitely fulfilled a craving that I had started to develop for more content based in the neurological perspective。 I would infer， without having any real reason， that this author wrote this book because it truly seems to be her interest given that “Lori was an Assistant Professor at Marian University in Indianapolis where she founded the Educational Neuroscience Symposium， currently in its eighth year， attracting the foremost experts in the fields of educational neuroscience， trauma and adversity。” It does seem to be a stand-alone book， meaning that it is not a sequel， but I would love to read more of the work that she has written！ She has written four other books from 2012 and wrote one even more recently than this book titled Intentional Neuroplasticity。 J。T。 Coopman， who has an educational doctorate， and is the executive director of IAPPS， stated that “Dr。 Lori Desautels gives us insight into the possibilities of a new paradigm for operationalizing the effects of adverse childhood experiences” which supports my belief that she will continue to be a force in this field of educational psychology。 I have not read any of her other books but given her area focus and as I stated above， I would love to continue to explore works from this author！This book focused on the fact that it is important to regulate your own actions as a teacher and that students often have a reason for acting out。 It suggested in one section to use an ACE test which expanded my knowledge as to what is considered traumatic for students because it discusses aspects of experiences that I would not normally think could be a stressor that impacts a child’s life。 It also emphasizes， throughout the text， that student relationships should be fostered from day one to ensure that discipline is not the first time a relationship is attempted to be established。 The biggest takeaway that truly blew my mind， however， was that disciple means to teach and that we have gotten away from that with our discipline practices。 The traditional form of discipline works best for the students who need it the least and works the least for the students who need it the most。It also continued to look at the teacher-student relationship by emphasizing that touch points are extremely important when trying to form a relationship with a student and that it is extremely important for leaders in the school community， whether that be administration or informal leaders， to showcase the importance of social emotional learning。 。。。more
Natalie
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The resource section alone makes this a must-read for any education professional。 I only knocked off one star because at times the information is very dry and academic。
Derek Thompson
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This book gives all kinds of brain-aligned strategies that can be implemented very easily in schools。 The resource section at the end of the book is great and offers a wide variety of strategies。
Amy
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I can’t wait to try some new activities with classrooms。 I love all the work that Dr。 Desautels has put into schools and kids who have experienced trauma！
MaryKay Keller
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This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 This is what is missing in our intergenerational relationships。 We have to experience emotional connection as a child in order to provide a healthy connection as adults。
Lisa Marie
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This book is absolutely outstanding。 There are so many great resources and so many “mind checks” as I like to call them， for someone who works with children or even teens。 I highly recommend this to ANYONE who works with youth in any capacity at all。 Parenthood， teacher， youth worker， counsellor， anything。 We can all learn something from this book！
Holly Murphy
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Very practical and applicable to many educational settings。 As a district administrator on a team that supervises the implementation of MTSS-B/PBIS programs in over 100 schools in an urban setting， I found this book very helpful in maximizing the effectiveness of the tiered interventions I support in classrooms。 In a time of increased dysregulation for students and staff， this book is a must。
Christina Marsh
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I cannot say enough good about this book！ If you are an educator or work with children at all， you need to read this book。 All the counselors at my school are reading it along with admin as a book club training because it’s that good。
Tracy Stephens
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I highly recommend this book to teachers of elementary and middle school students！ It’s got a lot of great neuroscience in it， but it’s through the lens of education。 It also has a TON of concrete ideas to use with students。
Janelle
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I love learning the Science behind discipline。 It makes it easier to present to administration on why I do things the way I do
Tammy Vollbracht
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It's been quite awhile since I've read a book that I had to add sticky notes to， to mark all of the things I want to use when school starts in the fall。 This book is covered in sticky note tags。 I will be referring to this book frequently next school year。 It's been quite awhile since I've read a book that I had to add sticky notes to， to mark all of the things I want to use when school starts in the fall。 This book is covered in sticky note tags。 I will be referring to this book frequently next school year。 。。。more
Gina Marie
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This book is a fabulous resource for educators。 It gives information on neuroscience and how to apply it in education in an comprehensible way。 Readers learn the neuroscience behind behaviors as well as strategies to address different states of emotional states。 The connection strafora explained at the end of the book are so helpful and so easy to implement。 My only observation is that the strategies explained seem more geared toward preschool and elementary school students。 I’d love a “part two This book is a fabulous resource for educators。 It gives information on neuroscience and how to apply it in education in an comprehensible way。 Readers learn the neuroscience behind behaviors as well as strategies to address different states of emotional states。 The connection strafora explained at the end of the book are so helpful and so easy to implement。 My only observation is that the strategies explained seem more geared toward preschool and elementary school students。 I’d love a “part two” of this book geared at middle and high school students！ I will be recommending this book to my district as essential professional development for all！ 。。。more
Kelly Green's
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An amazing book chalk full of valuable， cutting edge information for teachers， schools and parents。 I am a parent and found the information on connecting over compliance to be simple yet something many are not aware we may be doing/not doing。 Making a few perception shifts and awareness of more frequent and quality connections with my child has changed our lives dramatically。 I highly recommended this book for anyone that works with or has children。
Monique
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